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How to Meet Your Children’s Needs During Divorce

As you go through the divorce process, you and your spouse should keep a sharp focus on your children’s needs in addition to your own. Here are just a few examples of some of the needs your child will have during this time, and how you can fulfill them:

  • Involvement: Children need to have strong relationships with both parents. Both parents should continue to stay involved as much as possible, even if not always physically with the children. This means texting, calling, asking questions, and spending quality time.
  • Maturity: Your children need you to continue to model mature relationships, even if you no longer live together or are married to each other. You should avoid fighting in front of your children—this could make children (especially young ones) feel like they did something wrong or that they are the cause of this strike.
  • Unity: Always pose a united front in the decisions you make. Communicate about important parenting decisions and methods of discipline so your children will have consistency across households. They need this consistency to grow and thrive. It can be difficult, but it’s crucial for raising well-adjusted children.
  • Kindness: Children pick up on bitterness or resentment in the way you discuss your spouse (or ex). Never badmouth them in front of your children—they need to maintain strong relationships with both parents. When they hear you speak ill of them, it makes them feel like they need to pick a side to appease you. That puts them in a very emotionally difficult position.

For more tips about meeting your children’s emotional needs during divorce, contact a trusted Minnesota divorce lawyer at Appelhof, Pfeifer & Hart, P.A.

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