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Tips for Living With Your Spouse During the Divorce Process

It’s understandable to want to find a new living situation as soon as possible if you and your spouse are divorcing. However, in some cases that simply is not possible or practical, which means you will need to spend more time together. This can be awkward or uncomfortable during the divorce process, but there are ways you can make it work.

Here are some tips to help you maintain your sanity in such a situation.

  • Continue communicating about finances: As difficult as communication might feel, you need to stay on the same page regarding finances, because you both need to set yourself up for financial stability coming out of the divorce.
  • Stay civil: Much easier said than done in some circumstances, we know, but keep it civil as much as possible. If you need to stay in separate rooms or avoid each other, then do it. If you fall into constant arguments, this could impact your divorce, especially if you’re looking to go through mediation or collaborative divorce.
  • Think of the kids: Never put your children in the middle of your arguments. For their sake, try to maintain normalcy as much as possible, and continue to pose a united front for all parenting-related decisions.
  • Know when enough is enough: If you’re in a bad situation and it simply is too much for you to remain in the home, don’t feel bad about moving out. There are some circumstances in which it is not safe or sensible to remain in the home. Be honest with yourself about this.

For more tips for staying in the same home as your spouse during your divorce, contact an experienced Minnesota divorce lawyer at Appelhof, Pfeifer & Hart, P.A.

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