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Want to Speed Up Your Divorce and Custody Process? Consider Negotiating

Divorce and custody myths have led many people to believe that the process always has to be adversarial. Even when you hire attorneys to advocate on your behalf, that doesn’t necessarily mean that you need to fight over every detail in order to get a fair result. In fact, needless arguments can significantly lengthen the process.

If you’re separating amicably, consider where you might be willing to make concessions. Here are some tips to speed up the process:

  • Decide what’s important:When you meet with your attorney, you should already have an idea of what you’d like to get out of the divorce. That might include certain assets, a particular custody arrangement, spousal and child support and more. Decide your main priorities, then let your lawyer know what’s most important.
  • Know your rights: Before you agree to anything with your spouse, it’s important to understand your legal rights to property and custody. Consult with a divorce and custody attorney to find out more about your rights and the most likely outcome if you have to fight everything in court.
  • Decide where you can negotiate:Next, try to figure out where you’re willing to make concessions if it helps you achieve your main goals. For example, perhaps you’re willing to let your spouse have a certain asset in exchange for keeping another.
  • Ask your spouse if they’re willing to negotiate:If your split is amicable, approach your spouse and ask them if they’ll be willing to negotiate and agree on certain terms before you bring in attorneys. However, if you have a contentious or abusive spouse, you may have no choice but to litigate every detail.

If you can come to any agreements, your attorneys can focus on the remaining issues. This saves time and money—and it can even preserve your post-divorce and co-parenting relationship.

For more information about negotiating divorce settlements, reach out to the skilled divorce lawyers at Appelhof, Pfeifer & Hart, P.A. in St. Paul, MN today.

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  • "With Appelhof, Pfeifer & Hart, P.A., it is like having a family physician. They are all knowledgeable, thorough, comforting, and the only call I need to make for all my legal needs for many years to come. No matter what the matter, I totally trust their advice and commitment to me and my family." - J.N.

  • "Mary from APH Law helped me thru a difficult divorce. She and the entire staff was there for me every step of the way helping me on what to do next. They listened to what I wanted and helped me achieve what matter the most to me in the divorce settlement." - Dana C.

  • "I chose APH after my initial consultation with Mary. I felt my best interest would be represented. The entire process went excellent, the attorneys and staff communicated effectively and efficiently with me throughout the process as they needed to. Being new to the legal process and verbiage, they walked me and talked me through the next steps and the jargon, I felt completely comfortable and represented. I hope I never have to use legal services again but if I do I will call Mary at APH Law and know that I will be taken care of." - Jeff M.

  • "Divorce is a time of emotion and stress. Mary Pfeifer , My lawyer was professional and compassionate. She was very informative through the process. Her insight helped me in my decisions. She worked hard to obtain a settlement which was fair to both parties.Though, I hope I won't need her help again. It is reassuring to know a good person that is willing to help." - Rod S.

  • "I first came to Ms. Jacquelyn Lutz of Appelhof, Pfeifer and Hart in October of 2016. It was definitely the worst time in my life and she compassionately spoke with me about my options. Ms. Lutz thoroughly explained the laws, statutes, process and what to expect going forward. What was supposed to be one case, turned into three intricate cases that took a huge toll on me and my family. Ms. Lutz represented me in court on all three cases with a vast knowledge of the laws and how to proceed accordingly. During all three cases she kept me informed, calm, gave me resources to utilize, and (most important) gave me a realistic view of what may come next. Ms. Lutz knew each case required a great deal of knowledge and creative thinking on how to legally proceed forward with each case. My family and friends are forever grateful for the amazing representation by Ms. Lutz. I highly recommend Ms. Lutz for anyone needing or considering superb representation for any kind of family law. " - M.H.


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