What to Tell Your Kids About Your Upcoming Divorce
What you tell your children about your divorce can have a significant impact on them in the years to come. Thus, you should plan everything as it relates to how you are going to break the news to them. And as tough as it may be, you must collaborate with your spouse and have the discussion with your kids as a team.
The following are a few tips for telling your children about your decision to get divorced:
- Include positive perspectives: You cannot escape the reality that a divorce will, at least temporarily, be upsetting to your children. But you can choose to frame some aspects of it in positive ways. You can tell your kids they will get to experience some new opportunities, or that they will get to spend some more one-on-one time with each parent.
- Make it as amicable as possible: Again, as hard as it may be to play “best friends” in front of your children, it’s important to be mature when speaking with them. By demonstrating acceptance of your divorce and keeping your emotions in check, you will make it easier for your kids to accept the divorce, as well.
- Emphasize how much you love them: You need to make it completely clear that the divorce is not the kids’ fault — and that you love them with all your heart. Make sure they know that no matter what changes are about to happen, you will always be there for them.
- Tell them what happens next: Although you should not go into detail about the divorce process, you should reassure your children that there will be as little disruption to their lives as possible. Tell them what will happen with their school life and where they will live, and answer any questions they have as honestly as you can.
- Ask them how they feel: Give your children an opportunity to share their thoughts and feelings. It is understandable if they react negatively.
For further guidance and advice on the divorce process in Minnesota, meet with an experienced family law attorney at Applehof, Pfeifer & Hart, P.A.