If you have reason to believe your partner is cheating, it is important you take immediate action both for the sake of your marriage and for the success of your potential divorce if your instinct turns out to be correct.
Here are a few of the steps you should take if you suspect infidelity:
- Trust your instincts: If you believe there is legitimate cause for concern, you should trust your instincts and approach your partner with your concerns. Find a way to delicately bring up the subject, and explain the warning signs you’ve noticed.
- Respect privacy: Even if you believe your fears are well-founded, you should not resort to digging through text messages or email. If you end up being wrong and get found out, this will be a significant breach of trust in your relationship.
- Know how to have the conversation: Choose the right time to have the conversation—you should have privacy, and should have plenty of time, and should both be in the right frame of mind, free of significant stresses. Own up to your suspicions and fears, and say you needed to bring the issue up to get some peace of mind. Being honest about your fears will show your care for the relationship and will display some maturity and integrity.
- Attempt therapy: Depending on how the conversation proceeds, you might be willing to engage in couples therapy or counseling before you jump straight to a divorce.
For more tips about how to handle potential infidelity before a divorce, contact an experienced Minnesota divorce lawyer at Appelhof, Pfeifer & Hart, P.A.