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Tips for Getting Out of an Abusive Marriage

Leaving an abusive spouse can be a difficult step to take, both logistically and emotionally, even when you know it’s the right thing to do. Here are a few tips to help get you through the process safely.

  • Protect yourself: If you are a victim of domestic violence, you can connect with a hotline or shelter and they will be able to provide you with the advice, counseling and other services you need to deal with the situation. If you find yourself in an emergency you should also make sure to get the police involved.
  • Start saving: Either open your own separate checking account and begin stashing money there, or start building up your own cash savings.
  • Find a place to stay: There are always domestic violence shelters available, but you could also find a friend or trusted relative who would be willing to let you stay with them.
  • Make copies of documents: There are going to be some important documents you will need to have copies of. These include bank statements, tax documents, mortgage or loan information, pay stubs, car titles, and of course any birth certificates, Social Security cards and other such personal paperwork.
  • Adjust privacy settings: If you are using a cellphone, adjust your privacy settings to make sure you’re the only one who can access the information on your device.

These are just a few tips that you should consider as you seek to work your way out of an abusive marriage. For more information about how you can prepare and keep yourself safe in the process, contact an experienced Minneapolis divorce attorney at Appelhof, Pfeifer & Hart, P.A.

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