It is understandable if you want to avoid any contact whatsoever with your spouse after the two of you have decided to get a divorce. However, some level of communication will may be necessary to ensure the process goes reasonably smoothly.
You have two choices: communicate directly or communicate through attorneys. Below are some issues to consider.
Direct communication
Direct communication is tricky, because there is always the possibility that what you say could be used against you in court. Therefore, you need to make sure any communication you have with your spouse directly is cordial and business-like. It should not devolve into personal arguments — if it does, cut off communication immediately.
Urgent questions or needs, especially those involving children, are best handled directly, though you should be sure to keep it civil and business-like. Upcoming payments and other logistical matters can also be handled through direct communication.
Be sure to keep copies of letters, emails and texts that discuss divorce-related matters, or anything else that may become useful during your case.
Communication with an attorney
There are some circumstances in which it’s advisable to let your attorney do the communicating for you, especially if you are fearful of your spouse or there has been a history of domestic violence. If there are no-contact orders as part of a temporary restraining order, it is crucial that you do not violate them, and let your attorney handle all the communication.
Attorney communication can also be helpful if your spouse is being difficult in the divorce process. Keeping communications through attorneys can prevent arguments. Of course, the more you use your attorneys for these communications the more expensive your divorce will get, so it behooves you to be as civil as possible with your spouse so you can get through the process relatively amicably.
For the guidance and advice you need when going through a divorce in Minnesota, consult a dedicated family law attorney with Appelhof, Pfeifer & Hart, P.A.