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Ending a marriage is difficult—but that first major holiday after your divorce can often feel insurmountable. Your “new normal” can feel stressful and lonely, especially if you miss the traditions you once shared. Navigating custody issues adds another layer of difficulty. Many clients report feeling particularly depressed during this time.
Here are some tips to help you get through the holidays:
- Don’t skip the grieving:Many people feel that they have to put on a happy face during the holidays, even if they’re going through a difficult time. Don’t ignore or skip the grieving process. It’s okay to admit you’re struggling. If possible, working with a therapist can help you cope with the grief in a positive manner.
- Plan to make new memories:It can be tough to accept that your old traditions are over. However, you can always make new positive memories. Consider trying a new activity, booking a trip or visiting a new restaurant with friends and family. These new traditions can help take the sting out of old memories.
- Stick to a budget:It’s tempting to indulge in retail therapy, or try to make up for your kids’ suffering with expensive gifts. However, be careful to watch your spending and stick to your budget. Limit purchases to only what you can afford, and remember, spending quality time with friends and family won’t break the bank.
- Limit your activities:It’s easy to overbook during the holidays, even in normal years. However, grief can interfere at unexpected times. Make sure you have plenty of downtime, and choose invitations wisely.
- Practice gratitude:Finally, try to find something you’re grateful for. Practicing gratitude might seem ironic during a time of pain and upheaval, but it will help you focus on everything that you do
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