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Tips to Help You Stop Arguments During Your Divorce

Even relatively amicable divorces can have moments of tension, where it can feel like an argument is ready to burst out at any moment. This is only natural, given the emotional nature of the divorce process. However, it’s in everyone’s best interest to keep the arguments to a minimum so you can avoid damaging the progress you make in your divorce negotiations.

With this in mind, here are some tips to help you defuse potential arguments during your divorce process.

  • Demonstrate a willingness to compromise: Phrases such as “you may be right” or even the more obvious “I’m willing to compromise” can be very powerful, because they take a lot of the edge out of a potential argument before matters can begin to blow up. If you refuse to give any ground, it’s much more likely you’ll end up having to deal with a potentially explosive situation.
  • Show you understand their frustrations: Emphasize your understanding of your spouse’s circumstances and be as empathetic as possible. Demonstrating an understanding of their position will help to avoid them getting angry.
  • Apologize: If you’re in the wrong, say you’re sorry! You’d be amazed at how much that can do to defuse a situation.
  • Ask for time: If you need time to think through a particular topic or issue, say so—don’t try to have answers for everything that comes up as soon as the issue arises. Taking some time to properly think through a response will allow you to formulate such a response in a way that will not cause offense or harm.

For more tips about defusing arguments during the divorce process, contact an experienced Minnesota lawyer at Appelhof, Pfeifer & Hart, P.A.

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