No matter how prepared you think you are, you are likely going to feel at least a little overwhelmed once your divorce is actually made final. With this in mind, here is some advice from a variety of divorce experts on how you can make the transition to your new life easier on yourself and your loved ones:
- Talk to your kids about what’s next: It’s important you keep the lines of communication open with your children after your divorce so that they know that even though life is about to change, you are always there for them. Encourage them to share their feelings and express their opinions and frustrations. Even if you don’t like what they have to say, it’s important to give them the space to express themselves.
- Acknowledge that you need to move on: It can be difficult to come to terms with the fact that your marriage is over, but there needs to be some sort of acknowledgement that you are beginning a completely new life. Take the time you need to grieve — it’s a completely normal part of the post-divorce process.
- Take charge of your finances: Create a budget to account for your new financial situation, update all of your accounts and beneficiaries, and set a plan to repair or rebuild your credit if needed. Consult a financial advisor if you need assistance.
- Get active: Coming out of a marriage is a great time to channel your frustrations into staying healthy and active. Renew your activity in something you are passionate about, such as sports, art, music or clubs.
- Don’t feel like you need to rush into a new relationship: It can be healthy to stay single for some time after your divorce to help you to find yourself again. After being married for so long, it might take you some time to recover an identity that is not connected to your former partner.
If you are going through a divorce in Minnesota, speak with a dedicated family law attorney at Appelhof, Pfeifer & Hart today.