Even Adult Children Can Struggle When Parents Get Divorced
Divorce is almost always difficult on children, even when they are adults themselves. It can be very difficult to watch your parents, who have likely been married for many years, bring their marriage to an end.
The following are some tips for you to manage your parents’ divorce and help them through the process, when appropriate:
- Stay out of the fight: Because you are now grown up and able to provide reasoned opinions about the relationship, there’s a good chance your parents will try to drag you into the fight — even if it’s not entirely intentional. Make sure your parents know you are not going to play any role in that. Do not act as their sole means of communication.
- Help your parents communicate: Although you should not allow your parents to use you as their main channel of communication, you may help them to communicate with each other. This can be as simple as reminding them that you are not their mediator and that they can get in touch with each other directly. If this is too difficult, suggest they get a professional mediator involved.
- Report abuse if you see it: You should absolutely step in if you have reason to believe one of your parents is abusing the other. Get social workers, police or other officials involved. There is no room to tolerate abuse of any kind.
- Find support groups: It can be emotionally exhausting to feel like you must be responsible for your parents when they are going through divorce. Reach out and find support groups, both online and offline, to help you through the process and cope with your emotions. It is completely natural to feel abandoned or overwhelmed, and these groups can help you through it.
Divorce can be difficult for both the couple involved and their family members and friends. For the legal support and guidance you need, meet with a skilled Minnesota divorce lawyer at Appelhof, Pfeifer & Hart, P.A.