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Take Divorce Advice from Friends and Family With a Grain of Salt

As you begin the divorce process, one thing you will notice is that you will get a lot of unsolicited advice from friends and family about your own divorce. This advice typically comes from a very well-meaning place. People who care about you think they can help you and want to share their own experiences.

However, it’s also important that you take any such advice with a healthy-sized grain of salt. Though well-meaning, the advice may or may not apply to your situation. Ultimately every divorce is different, just as every person is different.

Where to get advice

First and foremost, it should be noted that the only person who is an expert in your divorce is you. This goes for people who have been through the divorce process—while they might understand some of the logistical aspects of a divorce, the knowledge they’ve gained is what applies specifically to their case.

That’s not to say your friends and family won’t have any good advice to offer. In fact, they may have some very good things to say.

When it comes down to the more nuts-and-bolts aspects of your divorce, you should take advice from:

  • Your attorney, who will have a thorough understanding of all the legal elements of your case
  • Your financial planner, who will be able to help you get to a financially healthy place moving forward from your divorce
  • Your therapist, who can help you work through the emotional issues of your divorce

Close friends and family members may also have good personal advice, or can be a good sounding board for you in difficult times.

For more information about what to expect in the divorce process, contact a trusted Minneapolis lawyer at Appelhof, Pfeifer & Hart, P.A.

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