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Tips for a Beneficial Trial Separation

For some people who are considering the possibility of a divorce, but are not yet ready to move forward, a trial separation can be a beneficial sort of “cooling off” period that allows the spouses a chance to live apart, regain perspective and attempt to save their relationship.

Trial separations may not result in the couple getting back together and salvaging their marriage, but that does not mean it’s impossible to do so. It takes a lot of hard work and commitment for the trial separation to actually have its intended effect, however.

Below are some issues you should address to give yourself a good chance at making the trial separation a successful one:

  • Time: Do not go into a separation with an open-ended time limit. Instead, set a timeframe for when you will decide whether you will move back in together or get a divorce.
  • Payments: Make sure you have, in writing, an agreement that covers mortgage or rent payments, utilities, insurance policies and other needs during the separation.
  • Counseling: You may find it beneficial during this time to seek marriage counseling. Have an agreement about seeking counseling before the separation begins, and arrange your first session. Otherwise, you’ll find it becomes much easier to avoid the issue once you are living separately.
  • Property division: For the spouse who is moving out of the house, what right will he or she have to take certain possessions? Again, have an agreement in writing.

Even if you do not necessarily intend to file for divorce, it can be a good idea to have a family law attorney to advise you in setting up your separation. To learn more, meet with an experienced Minnesota attorney at Appelhof, Pfeifer & Hart, P.A.

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