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Tips to Set Yourself Up for Success in a Custody Dispute

At the outset of any child custody case, it is important to take certain steps to get prepared and be more likely to find a successful outcome.

Here’s a quick overview of some of the steps you can take to position yourself for success.

  • Separate accounts: If you are sharing accounts, it’s best to cancel those accounts, especially if they involve shared communications, You do not want your text messages or other communications to show up on your spouse’s devices.
  • Seek therapy: Custody battles can take a significant emotional toll on people. For your emotional wellbeing, it’s very beneficial to seek the assistance of a therapist leading up to any custody battle in which you’ll be participating. You’ll need someone to talk to so you can work through the baggage that will surely come as a result of this dispute.
  • Avoid social media: If you must keep your social media accounts active, make sure you remove your ex from all platforms and have your profiles set to the highest level of privacy possible. Keep posts private and avoid oversharing. It’s best to not post anything at all, but at the very least you should post nothing to do with your case, your children, your finances, or anything else that could portray you in a bad light in court for custody issues.
  • Journal: Document all of the interactions you have with the other parent and with your children. This will help you keep a log of how good your communications are, and also how dedicated you are as a parent in your interactions with your children.
  • Be responsible: Never use your children as messengers, and avoid badmouthing the other parent in front of them. Keep the other parent informed about custody-related issues and scheduling, and meet all deadlines you have with court processes. This will all reflect well on you during the dispute.

For more information about how you can improve your chances of success in a custody dispute, contact an experienced Minnesota divorce attorney at Appelhof, Pfeifer & Hart, P.A.

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