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What to Know Before Getting Married, As Told By Divorce Lawyers

Divorce lawyers in the online Buzzfeed community recently shared advice they would give to couples about to get married. Here are just a few examples of some of the more salient pieces of advice provided:

  • Talk about important issues before tying the knot: It’s great to be in love and to have romantic notions of your future together. But it’s also important to consider how you will handle some of the important nuts-and-bolts issues of marriage. For example: how will you handle financial matters? Do you want children, and if so, what parenting philosophies do you have? What types of goals do you have for your careers, or your lives in general? It’s important to have these conversations early and often.

  • Consider how you argue and make up: Arguments happen, even between couples with outstanding relationships. What’s important is how you argue and then, ultimately, make up. It should be a red flag if either of you default to being petty or immature. You must be good communicators and play fair with each other.

  • Consider getting a prenup: Prenuptial agreements have an unfair reputation of being a bad omen about the future of a marriage. You should think of them instead as insurance policies. You don’t intend to get into a car accident if you have car insurance, but it’s still nice to have, just in case.

  • Don’t bring up divorce in arguments: When you do have arguments with your spouse, do not use the “divorce card.” Once it’s used as a threat, it becomes a very real possibility.

These are just a few examples of some tips that can help young couples find strength and success in their relationships.

For more information, contact an experienced Minnesota divorce lawyer at Appelhof, Pfeifer & Hart, P.A.

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